Tuesday, April 30, 2013

Tips menghadapi Pembuli di sekolah asrama penuh

Seperti yang sedia maklum, saya pernah bersekolah di sekolah paling prestige di Johor selepas sekolah Tun Fatimah iaitu Sekolah Menengah Sains Muar (SAMURA). Ibu Bapa perlu tahu, walaupun anak anda bersekolah di SBP, anak anda tidak terkecuali menjadi mangsa buli. Walaupun, pelajar SBP dikategorikan sebagai pelajar pintar , tetapi bab membuli juga sangat kreatif.

Cerita bermula pada minggu orientasi, bila senior form 5 tahu yang saya dari sekolah menengah kebangsaan Agama Johor Bahru (SMKAJB). Untuk pengetahuan anda SAMURA cuma ada 2 peringkat Form 4 dan Form 5, so tersangat besar peluang untuk membuli. Pada mulanya saya amat pelik kenapa saya menjadi mangsa buli, rupanya ada kawan beritahu senior form 5 tak puas hati dengan senior mereka dulu which is from my school (SMKAJB) so ini kira revenge la..tapi silap besar sebab mereka revenge kat orang lain..ini Izyan Ismail, awak bermain dengan api, tapi saya hampir tewas selepas 2weeks sekolah saya minta mama pindahkan saya ke sekolah lama sebab tak tahan, tapi mama pujuk...baiklah I face the challenge.

Kes 1
Saya diminta oleh senior kadet polis untuk mengambil sign dari beberapa senior lain, macam biasa kerja senior memang nak membuli junior, so what happen is i've to get sign from abg senior yg popular but I forget his name!!! So bila saya selamba jer minta sign "abg nak sign, kakak fulanah binti fulan mintak sign" ...abg senior tu pon okey jer...rupanya mintak sign dengan abg senior lagi senang dari kakak senior..

Kes 2
Kakak senior tak puas hati sebab saya dapat sign dengan senang, apa jadi senior ni nama Adillah dari Sarjana 7, dia ni cantik pandai, tak tahulah jadi apa sekarang mungkin doctor, engineer, so dia panggil saya suruh taekwando kat dalam dorm dia, you must be crazy woman!!..saya pon taekwando, mereka ketawa dengan senang hati, what happen is saya cakap ada sesiapa nak sparring ( lawan one by one) mereka senyap terus suruh saya balik.

Kes 3
Senior sarjana 7 cakap saya degil so kepala ada batu lah, mereka dah prepare one song for me ..the song's name is "kapla" so setiap kali nampak saya mereka akan nyanyi lagu kapla..seronok tengok mereka nyanyi..what i did is bila mereka nyanyi, i jerit to my friends " korang nak dengar tak dayang2 aku nyanyi lagu untuk aku" my friends aka my classmate ni tahu so diorang pon cakap lah "nak!!!" Terus senyap kakak senior.

Kes 4
Paling tak best bila kena ludah dengan senior, nasib baik tak kena kat badan kalau tak memang ada makan taekwando side kick aku nanti...boleh ke tengah jalan nak pergi toilet, senior sarjana 7 dah siap prepare berdiri tepi pintu nak meludah, nasib baik aku lupa muka korang cuma aku ingat Adilah je lah... Kalau tak memang aku cari semua ....

Kes 5
Masa tunggu waktu maghrib saya tertido kat surau, tetiba ada senior sarjana 5 baling sejadah on my face suruh i bangun, aku tengok kakak tu aku cari nama dia siapa, tinggal kat mana parent kerja apa, bila aku tahu yang dia tinggal kat flat quarters kenanga kat JB ni, aku terus jumpa dia haruslah one to one. Saya cakap " kakak, saya tahu ayah akak kerja apa, saya tahu semuanya pasal akak, jangan sampai ayah akak hilang kerja sebab akak buli saya" ... Fine, terus dia stop buli aku

Kes 6
Still kakak sarjana 7 , diorang ni sebelah dorm aku, so haruslah diorang memang sakit hati jer dengan aku, sebab aku tak pernah menangis depan diorang, anyway what happen is diorang tengah menyanyi lagu kapla sebab nampak aku. Nak jadikan cerita, calculator diorang terjatuh dari tingkat 3 sampai ke bawah tangga tingkat 1... Aku terus jerit "itulan padahnya menzalimi orang"

Kes 7
Tradisi SBP akan minta maaf bila nak dekat SPM, bila tiba turn Sarjana 7, mereka minta maaf dengan aku ... Aku salam aku cakap "dosa akak semua dengan saya hanya Allah yg balas" meraung kakak senior sebab aku cakap macam tu, akhir cerita batch 21 SAMURA terus jatuh pointer SPM dengan sangat teruk!!only 3 students get straight A's... Dah ramai sangat junior korang buli and dah banyak air mata memohon kepada Allah minta pembalasan.

Anyway kita terus pergi tips menghadapi pembuli
1. Tenangkan diri, fikir apa yang perlu anda lakukakan
2. Research kenapa anda jadi mangsa buli
3. Bertindak secara profesional, sila mengadu kepada parents, warden, guru..ASAP
4. Kalau rasa tak tahu nak buat apa sila pura2 pengsan, confirm Insya Allah, senior terus ternganga cuak!!! be the best drama queen!!
5. Mengadu kat kawan2 yg betul kawan bukan jenis bodek senior
6. Kalau anda rasa anda baik dengan senior, sila mengadu dengan mereka, mungkin mereka boleh tolong nasihatkan kawan2 mereka... In my case, i dah mengadu kat my senior dorm, what happen is they ask me to be patient!!memang sakit hati kau suruh aku sabar,bukannya kau nak bela aku kan...
7. Anda tahu anda berdepan dengan siapa, siapa pembuli anda, kenapa dia buli anda, dan confront dia secara privasi... One to one.
8. kepada pelajar lelaki,terus je report kat warden tak payah nak tunjuk hero sangat, or report kat parents, your parents will know what to do.
9. Tak tahulah zaman sekarang pelajar sekolah buli macam mana dah 7 tahun tinggalkan sekolah...jangan pindah sekolah!!awak akan rugi kalau pindah sekolah..
10. Jangan jadi pembuli, bila awak dah jadi senior!!!

So inilah tips menghadapi pembuli di SBP, kalau sekolah lain saya tak tahu sebab sekolah harian biasa lagi teruk kes buli, by the way Be strong!!! By the end you must know, the best revenge is to get flying colours, cari kerja paling best, or business... If you are "somebody" bolehlah cari senior korang.."hello kak, ingat saya?? Dulu yang akak nyanyi lagu kapla and ludah kat saya!!"

XOXO
Izyan Ismail
Pelajar SAMURA batch 22 SPM2005 Pujangga 7



Sunday, February 24, 2013

Lover or bestfriend??

This entry is written with sincerely from the bottom of my half broken heart...yet not fully damage.. It's not about one man and one woman... This related with girls bestfriend forever.. Yup, BFF katanya... Anyway i just don't know how to start..so many hearts to care...

Okey maybe will start with me.. When i've boyfrien i never abondoned my friends...in fact l love make them (boyfriend and friends) meet together.. Like makan2 lepak2 and so many... My ex pon dulu kenal all my friends.. But for the first time he really don't like to hang out with my friends...privacy katanya...but i said to him, my life is not all about you i've friends who will take care of me if you are not around..so please do be friend with my friend or just make them like you...that is my principe...maybe some might said it's too much kan...but for me macam .... if i break dengan you and i xada kawan sebab masa i bercinta dengan you i lupakan kawan2 i yg i dah lama kenal ... My mum always said if you maried you still need your friends to support you or sharing experience ... Yup in Islam if you married, the women must take care her relationship towards Allah, Rasul, Husband and yourself...even your parents cannot masuk campur in your marriage kan.... But be realistic woman, some part in your life you do need your girlfriend to gain support and sharing your experience... Okey la just simple example like breastfeeding..your husband don't know how hard or painful it is when the first time you breast feed your baby kan... You do need support from your girlfriend and how to solve the problem regarding this breastfeeding issue... Even my mum once a week my dad give permission to let her having minum2 with her friend.... Plus, my friends also introduce me with thier boyfriend and we also lepak2 together... Maybe i live with the surrounding like that ..just let me introduce you my boyfriend so we can hang out together , nanti bila kahwin tak adalah segan nak datang rumah kau kan... Just simple like that.. For me a real man would not worry or jealous with your girl because you know how much your girl in love with you...so man please jangan nak jealous sangat unless you feel insecure towards your girl....

The heart broken part is, when your bff macam abondoned you sebab dia dah ada boyfriend baru...hahahah i know it just like remeh temeh kan, but some how it's really make me sad because you are my bff and why you behave like that?? Yup, you have said to me that nanti kahwin you have to obey with your husband...but i'm your bff though, what i need is just like we having lepak2 together but not like dulu2 when you single... I understand you have boyfriend u want to have date with him in every single free time you have... Maybe some people would said that i'm jealous with bff...is a big NO!! I'm happy with her in fact i cannot wait to be her bridesmaid and help her planning in her wedding.... Okey i don't want to make assumption that u'r boyfriend dont like me...but being human sometimes terfikir jugak kan... Anyway to my bff i'm still u'r bestfriend forever, i'm happy if your happy if you need help or support i'm yours ....

Love and hugs
Izyan Ismail



Saturday, January 5, 2013

Back to 2012



2012 is such a great year for me..so many things I've done for the whole incredible. unexpected an I'm admit I never plan what I will do for 2012... I just follow my heart and considering what I want and need in my life.. so here is my Highlight for 2012!!

January
The end of part 2 for my master..so many things happen.. I realise so many douchebag in my life, I thought they are my friends..BUT certainty not coz mereka sangat suka tikam belakang sebab Markah?? so girls.. careful with u'r girlfriend of course maybe they look so sweet but they are PRETENDING... from the amazing black disgusting incident ... I already know who is really my friend..=)

February
I went to USS with my super crazy brothers... it was incredible super awesome vacation!!! more story you can click here


March
1.  I went to Brisbane and Gold Coast for 2 weeks!! and of course I ponteng class for 2 weeks hehehehe.. in love with Brisbane..I love the people, weather, interesting place, foods, and many more!!!.. more amazing stories you can click here...ada 4 parts, so many things I want to share hehehe....


April
My birthday of course!!!! saya sudah 24 tapi masih muda...


May
For the first time ..me and my housemate Zetty organize a preloved!!!..we sell everything from top to toe..and Alhamdulillah I get RM350 from selling my bags, shoes, dresses, bottom, tops and etc..yeay!!! so boleh organize lagi kot!!


June
something BIG happen to my boyfie!!!! he has been hit by some Malay Man at SACC mall parking lot!!!! Alhamdullilah, since then I know who is really my friends who help me manage the BIG crisis.. thanks to Huda, Najmi, Ada, Nurul, Boyfriend Ada, Syawal and Foo for being there... and my kak long kawasan yg sangat gangster and cool on that night..I'm impress with u sis..love u so much...


July
two days after the boyfie being hit.. I went to Krabi with my sayangs Huda, Tagaya and the Glamm mama Adriana... more awesome sexy stories u can click here 


August
Ramadhan and Syawal...spend time with bestfriend fara ...berbuka di Masjid Sultan Abu Bakar...and noting much happen in August...and Raya with the BIG family...also some family drama...we hate family drama but we have to face it... just face the fact that we are MALAY ...kalau kaya orang dengki kalau miskin orang hina... such a pathetic minded typical person..



September
Family trip at Langkawi..yeay... I don't know I just love the small family I have... it's just more than enough with 4 members in our small familly..I've been blessed everyday!!!...






October
struggling with my thesis!!! nak termuntah shocking pink electri blue..it's all about thesis... everyday I went to ipsis UiTM office nak siapkan thesis...and when ada orang tanya nanti terus sambung PhD kan?? I terus cakap nak rehat jadi normal person baru boleh sambung...stress aku!!!

November
My bestfriend fara engaged with her lovers Adi... I'm very happy with my BFF ...Insya Allah her wedding will be held on May this year...and of course she choose me as her Made of Honour..Yeay!!!!..


December
1. For the first time  I went to watch the footbal match between Malaysia and Indonesia.. thanks to my schoolmate and dormmate from SAMURA ajak pergi tengok at Stadium Bukit Jalil....I'm a happy girl



2.Alhamdulillah I've completed my thesis for Master... the dateline is 12.12.12...nice number and good number.. I told my supervisor "nasib baik saya tak nikah masa tarikh ni Prof"... yes..I'm married with my thesis..

3. Wedding Reunion....hehehehe..teruk perangai kan..buat reunion kat wedding orang ..sungguh bijak itu budak Samura specifically dorm Pujeng 7

Pujeng 7 Version 2012 


Buruk perangai pengantin kat Belakang.... =)

Thanks 2012 for giving me opportunity, loves, good lessons, first time experiences and many more!!!. and conclusion.. for the first time I don't have BOYFRIEND or LOVER for the whole 2012!!! But I enjoy my single life and I love it...I'm not a pathetic single ladies Insya Allah... my wish and hope for 2013..I don't have a plan!!! just follow the heart..but I think insya Allah I'll find new lover...confident Izyan ...so welcome 2013!!!

XOXO
Izyan Ismail

Wednesday, December 19, 2012

Perspektif Hijabista

credit to tudung people .. I adore her very much (the owner of tudung people)

saya sangat mengagumi rakan-rakan muslimah yang pandai berfashion terutama Hijabista, bagi saya asalkan menutup aurat sudah cukup (hijab mestilah labuh tutup dada)..but yesterday, saya ada terbaca twitter from Ustaz Saiful Islam mengenai perspektif beliau tentang Hijabista.. 




saya tak faham apa yang Ustaz Saiful Islam mahu sampaikan..mungkin ini adalah perspektif dari seorang ustaz..mungkin juga perspektif dari seorang lelaki yang agak pelik tengok fashion tudung masa kini..atau mungkin ustaz ingin menegur Hijabista yang tidak cantik dari pandangan ustaz...mungkin juga wanita yang memakai tudung labuh adalah yang terbaik..entahlah saya bukannya arif untuk mengupas topik menutup aurat, tapi the main objective why I create this entry, is to create awareness for Ustaz and others know why the Hijabista exist.,.

Bagi saya. kenapa saya perlu pandai menggayakan tudung fashion terkini kerana itu adalah kerana ini sebahagian dari dakwah saya untuk mengajak rakan-rakan yang belum terbuka untuk berhijab... ada rakan-rakan yang takut untuk memakai hijab sebab "kolot", "tak cantik", "tak boleh fashion"....tapi dengan menunjukkan cara berhijab pon boleh berfashion, up to date, nampak cantik , confident dan sebagainya...

Alhamdulillah, ada antara rakan saya yang belum terbuka hati untuk berhijab, menyatakan hasrat untuk jadikan saya sebagai role-model bila mereka ingin berhijab suatu hari nanti....this is really amazing, I'm proud of my self, that means saya sudah berjaya dalam dakwah kecil saya... 

mungkin ustaz Saiful islam tak faham...wanita dan fashion sangat tak boleh dipisahkan..mereka ibarat lelaki dengan video games, lelaki dengan bola sepak, lelaki dengan kereta... 

tetapi ada juga salah seorang rakan saya yang bertudung labuh menegur kalau pakai tudung berfashion mesti malas nak solat jika keluar rumah sebab nanti kena buka balik tudung and nak pakai balik susah, saya sangat setuju dengan pendapat beliau, tapi apa salahnya kalau masa boleh solat cari fashion hijabista yg simple but look elegant, and bila period tak boleh solat masa tu lah nak melaram bagai kan...

Turban mula popular bila Yuna menggayakan fashion ini, and ramai yang dah ikut,bagi saya apa salahnya asalkan tahu cara pakai turban yang menutup aurat..mungkin ustaz Saiful islam pelik dengan cara pemakaian turban, maklumlah benda baru..


class presentation 


Krabi trip

dari segi pemakain turban, saya rasa confident bila pakai turban but banyak remeh kena jaga (leher kena tutup, rambut kena pastikan jangan keluar)...BUT I feel very classy and so comfy when I'm wearing turban.. rasa sangat  up to date dan kemas... 

so kepada lelaki di luar sana, saya setuju ada yang fashion nampak pelik, tapi dari segi menegur sila cara berhemah, kami wanita berhati lembut, kami bukan lelaki yang anda semua boleh bercakap kasar... kalau cara kasar, takut nanti anda akan berjumpa dengan INCREDIBLE HULK VERSION HIJABISTA....

Love,
Izyan Ismail


Thursday, December 13, 2012

Sawadikap Krabi


I went to krabi last July... I know sangat la lambat untuk update krabi trip..cita-cita besar untuk menjadi travel blogger..BUT bila lambat update hanya sandarkan pada kenangan...Krabi trip tercetus apabila my friends and I tersangat tension with our study during semester 3..so we decided to reward ourself for a holiday, then we decide holiday at Krabi, memandangkan kami berempat tak pernah pergi Krabi..so it will be our adventure.. yang lagi best my Glamm mama found groupon for 2 nights at Krabi resort..and its very cheap... here is the budget 3 days 2 night at Krabi..:

Flight Tickets KL-Krabi-KL                                          RM 623
Hotel Krabi Resort                                                     RM 160
Island hoping (speed boat, 7 places, lunch, snorkeling) RM 100
spa 1 jam                                                                  RM 20
shopping + makan2                                                   RM  200

total                                                                         RM 1103

bila buat budget ni baru perasan expensive Krabi trip ni...I think we membazir at flight tickets..so my beloved readers please plan your holiday earlier..so tak membazir macam ni..and please DON'T STAY AT KRABI TOWN!!! memang tiada apa2 di sana ..nama je town tapi kosong, pantai pon jauh...so I suggest stay at Aonang, Krabi...nice place to stay....





my beloved friends a.ka my classmates from master class... from left Azaria Hello on 2, 
Glamm mama Adriana, me and my darling love Huda...


the beauty scenery at Krabi resort, Aonang....tersangat cantik!!


at Krabi resort Aonang


Krabi town yang sangat suram


island hoping...


sangat cantik laut krabi


location shooting of "the Beach" film


Koh phi phi sangat-sangat best...


Koh phi phi for tourist shopping but I think kat Aonang more cheaper...


namanya ombak rindu after snorkelling...


bila sampai Thailand, sila beli Teh ais yg sangat sedap..lagi sedap dari Chatime, Gong Cha, or mamak ...
and sangat murah..besar ni baru 20 bath equal to RM2...


the best pancake ever!!!!


pancake nutella..sangat2 crispy...


jangan lupa beli anything based from mangoes... sebab mangga Thailand sangat sedap..


Lamp decor kat Thailand sangat-sangat murah dalam RM30...menyesal tak beli kat sana...kat Malaysia paling murah pernah jumpa RM50 itu pon simple je...

okey that's all from me..I think cukup kot information .... next trip tak tahu lagi bila??....

XOXO
Love,
Izyan Ismail

P/S: saya dah submit thesis for master Alhamdulillah..so I'm back for blogging..yeay!!!

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